Take Your Ex Back, Is It A Good Idea?

Take Your Ex Back, Is It A Good Idea?

The end of a relationship comes with a lot of heartache, and for most people it can also be a confusing time. It is easy to think about taking an ex back, even if the relationship was a bad one, just because the thought of being alone is scary. But if you do decide to take your ex back, it should be for the right reasons.
There are times when taking an ex back is not recommended, like if they were abusing you. In this instance, you would be crazy to take them back, especially if they did not go through the process of getting the help that they need. It is important to realize that some people will not change, even if they say that they will, and the best way to predict future behavior from someone is based on past or present behavior.
It is lonely to suddenly go from being in a relationship to being single. When an ex of yours is asking to come back, you need to think about the relationship and how it was for you. Think about whether your ex made you happy and respected you. Look at all the good things about that relationship, which will be the reasons why you would want to take them back.
On the other side of the fence, realize that the relationship did end, and at some point you thought walking away was the best decision for you. You need to zoom into the problems that caused the end of the relationship and you will need to tackle the issues that caused the breakup.
If your ex is serious about coming back into your life, they need to take responsibility for their part in why the relationship failed to begin with. If there are issues to be sorted out, then they need to commit to that and do whatever work that they should. It is important that they are accountable for whatever problems they brought into the relationship.
You can set some rules that can determine their coming back into your life. If your relationship was a good one overall, then there is no reason why you should not take your ex back. If the thought of them being in your life again makes you smile, then it is something that you should consider.
If you are looking for them to come back because you are totally dependent on them, then that is not a good reason to want them back in your life. The only reason you should want someone back should be because you love them, and you want to share your life with them, and because you feel they are the right person for you. It will only work if you are also the right person for them.
Ask yourself these questions; were you happy with them in your life? Are you both willing to compromise and work hand in hand to make the relationship what it should be? Is there love, respect and honesty in the relationship? Was there more good than bad in the relationship? Depending on some of these answers, then you should look at taking your ex back.
Make sure that before you take the plunge and welcome your ex back, you should sit down with your ex and have a heart to heart, and talk about the relationship. It is important that they want you back for the right reasons, and that you are taking them back for the right reasons, otherwise you will be setting yourself up for disappointment and hurt.

Flirting Online help boost self-esteem for some women

Boost your self esteem, Flirt Online

Flirting Online

Flirt Online

According to this very interesting article from a Canadian site, Flirting Online help boost self-esteem. Excerpt from the article below, you can read the full article at the site, there is a link to the site at the bottom of the excerpt.

The popularity of the new social media site LikeALittle has skyrocketed after popping onto the University of Calgary scene last year. The site, which encourages users to “flirt anonymously with students on your campus,” has given students the means to procrastinate on essays, waste their Friday nights and avoid talking to peers in real life.

Recent English graduate Sandra Thompson said, despite having graduated, she hangs out on campus as much as she can in hopes of being noticed.

“I used to frequent Craigslist’s ‘Missed Connections’,” she said. “But I was never posted about because it was city-wide and I was always at school studying.”

LikeALittle, however, is campus-specific and allows anyone to flirt anonymously — the nature of the site allows people to flirt without the burden of small talk or conversation.

Thompson said she is constantly at MacEwan Hall and the Taylor Family Digital Library in order to have maximum exposure around campus.

About once a day Thompson posts on the site. Her latest post was on Sunday, Nov. 27 at 11:43 a.m. and said: ‘I hope one day, someone will notice and post about me.’

source/full story: thegauntlet.ca/story/15998

Meet a New Guy Online, Great, Now What?

Meet a New Guy Online, Great, Now What?

Meet a new guy, now what?

Meet a new guy, now what?

Everyone in your circle of friends have been encouraging you to get online and mingle, and you have actually met a guy that you like. The problem is that you have no clue how to proceed from here. Keep reading because you are about to find out what steps you can take to make sure that you do not blow it with this new guy.
Guys are normally the ones that will make the first move and pursue you. All you need to do is to make sure that he knows that you like him. From then on if he likes you back, he will be the one talking to you. Men like to do the chasing, so do not take this away from him.
If you are unsure what to ask him and how to proceed, wait to see what kind of questions he is asking you, and ask him the same questions back. You can add a bit of you in conversation, so that he can have a glimpse of you and be able to see your personality a little bit.
The whole point of chatting is so that you can learn a little bit about someone, so that you can decide if they are worth your time or not. As he asks questions, he will be trying to gather some things about you so that he can decide whether you are someone that he would like to get to know even more. You also should be doing the same, gathering information on him that will help you decide if you will want to meet with him or not. One word of advice, do not be too forthcoming with all the information, because you want to do this one on one. Answer him what he asks for, but give him incomplete information.
If you like him, you probably want to move past the emails to where you can meet in person and really get a taste of how he is face to face.
The problem with online dating is that women make the mistake of giving out too much too soon, and by the time they are supposed to meet with a guy, it does not happen because the anticipation is out. Do not let that happen to you. Stick with the brief answers, and if you have chatted to the guy for a week going on for two weeks, it is time to meet.
You obviously want to give him a chance to ask you to meet but what if he does not step up to that and ask you? Then you ask him!
If you are both interested in chatting to each other, then the next step is to meet and take it further. When you ask him, he will either respond enthusiastically and want to meet or he will have sort of an excuse. If he is not prepared to meet with you, my advice would be to start chatting to other guys, unless you are looking a chat buddy.
This is online, and you can stop chatting to someone if you feel that it is not going anywhere. Do not be nervous about the process, and after you do it for a bit, you will be very good at it. You do not have to get stuck with the guys, just be yourself and go with the flow. There are plenty of guys online, and along the line you will be able to meet one who is excited to meet with you.